WARNING - disjointed and rambling post... Lots on my mind at present!!
So, yes, I am a fabulous and lovely singleton (and modest too!! 
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Would I like to get married one day? Sure I would. But if I don't then hey, that is OK. Do I have days where I feel sorry for myself that I'm single? Sure I do. Do I have days where I am unbelievably grateful that I am single, you bet.
I digress - For me, marriage is a life-time commitment. It's about till death do us part, and sharing your life with someone else, as you live to serve and worship and glorify the most important thing in the whole world, the most important thing in all of time and in all of history - Jesus Christ. Marriage is something God came up with. I'm not talking about tacky and cheap and heartbreaking Hollywood sagas, or painful infatuation that doesn't last beyond that butterflies in the stomach feeling. I'm not talking about chick flick happily ever afters. I'm not talking about some shallow and unrealistic 'you complete me' type scenario, or about looking for a fix it for your hang-ups in someone else. I'm talking about a committed relationship - where you choose to make vows and to stick it through in sickness and in health, in the good times and the bad times, in the times when you're irritated by habits and in the times when you're puppy dog eyed in love.
At the end of the day, whether blessed to be married or blessed to be single it has to be about God - loving Him heart and soul, glorifying His name. That's what I want. That's what I want to want, and it's one of my biggest prayers - that I would want to want God and His glory, first and above all other things. I'm so self-involved! I don't want to get side-tracked.
Why am I ranting? I've reached that age, late 20's where I chat to many girls who are wondering why they are single, struggling to come to terms with it. We're so influenced and conditioned by media and society. It breaks my heart to see so many of us chickie-birds struggling with this! Chatting quite a bit about this hot topic with one of my best buddies.
Check-list if I ever do end up with a boy:
- MUST be a man after God's own heart (madly committed to God and delighting in him, wanting His will first)
- MUST be real - not arrogant, or super-spiritual or acting like he knows it all. Humble and so grateful to God - that is a VERY attractive quality. Able to admit when he's wrong, and gentle and loving enough to tell me when I'm wrong.
- MUST be respectful and gentle - something my mom told me long ago, respect is a very important, if highly underrated quality. Respect people and if you do end up getting married make sure you are committed to respecting him, and that he is committed to respecting you.
- PATIENT - I am ditzy! so patience would be lovely.
- HUMOUR - able to laugh at himself and at me.
- QUIRKY - must have his own personality, however quirky that may be.
That's about it at present. It's late and it's time to hit club duvet!!! Wow - talk about gut spilling sagas...
posted @ Friday, February 02, 2007 12:41 AM